How To Keep A Friends-With-Benefits Situation Easy

Sleeping with friends can be fun, but can get complicated if you’re not careful. One person could start to feel more or could all of a sudden lose interest, leaving the other person feeling awkward and putting the friendship at risk.

If you think you’re ready to indulge in a no-strings-attached soirée then be prepared to be completely upfront and honest about your feelings and intentions. Your comfort and his comfort are key to keeping up casual nooky.

Here are a few tips to a successful booty call:

Tip #1: Uncommitted sex requires that both you and your sometimes-partner are on the same page. Be honest with him and with yourself by talking about whether you both truly are okay with a friends-with-benefits situation. But don’t over-talk it either – no-strings-attached hookups means no long, gushy, heart-to-hearts are required and might end up scaring him (or you) away.

Tip #2: If he doesn’t answer the phone, don’t call him back. It’s crucial that things stay light and carefree, and if he has ten missed calls from you, it might start to give him the wrong message. Take it as a hint that if he doesn’t call you right back, he may have other plans, or another bedfellow – and you’re cool with that, right? The best thing to do is ignore the redial button and move on the next victim on your list.

Tip #3: Casual and uncommitted usually implies that you’re not hooking up with your buddy on a regular basis. Make sure it stays that way or you’ll be headed into an area that may start to demand expectations. Once a month should do it – any more and you’re risking getting too involved.

Tip #4: Don’t turn a booty call into a weekend extravaganza. While you don’t want to rush out the moment you’re done shagging, you certainly don’t want to have an awkward morning with confused expectations. A no-strings-attached booty call does not include breakfast or a family brunch. Of course if you’re good friends too, then there’s no problem with hanging out, but be sure that it’s in the name of friendship and not because you’re a couple.

Tip #5: Be okay with the fact that he may be hooking up with other people on the side. Even a friendly booty call needs to be safe, so be sure that if he’s sleeping with other people that he’s had an  HIV test and got tested for  STDs. The same goes for you if you have multiple partners.